Happy Friday!
I have had a really busy week with tests and homework so this post is a little late. I had wanted to post it earlier, but I am now just finding the time to do it. I feel like time has literally just been flying just because of all the stuff I've been doing. When I'm not in class I'm usually studying, reading my Bible, sleeping, or hanging out with friends. Due to my class schedule, I have unfortunately been taken away from blogging as much as I have wanted to so I apologize for that. I love being able to share stuff God has put on my heart and I have really missed writing lately. I am going to work at being better at keeping up with my blog since it is important to me and to the Lord.
This is the third post about pure romance and I am really enjoying this topic. There have been a lot of people who have been asking me for relationship advice lately and I really just felt that these posts could not come at a better time than now. This series is based on a message the Lord gave me a few weeks ago and then He led me to write these posts. This week I wanted to talk about the levels in a relationship. I have heard these levels discussed many times before and I think that they are very important to romantic relationships with the opposite sex.
The first level of a relationship is the physical level. This the level of physical attraction and is usually the first thing that brings two people together. This is the lowest level and so you can't really base a relationship on this. Physical attraction is definitely important and the Lord wants you to be with someone your physically attracted to, but that should not be the basis of a relationship. Unfortunately, some people never progress beyond this point to reach the deeper levels of a romantic relationship.
The second level of a relationship is the soul/personality level. I love talking about this level because this is what helps sustain a relationship. I'm going to explain this in terms of friendship, for now. When you first meet someone and you don't know much about them, you really don't have a deep relationship with them. In the soul relationship level, two people are connected and know each other really well. These are the kind of relationships that last for a long time because there are so many ties keeping it together. Now, in terms of a romantic relationship, a man and a woman who get to know each other really well by talking and fellowshipping come to the soul level of a relationship. One of my favorite scriptures on this topic is found in Song of Solomon 3:4. Song of Solomon is a book in the Bible which talks about the love of a man and a woman and it truly reflects our love relationship with God. Verse 4 says, "...I have found the one whom my soul loves." When love comes from the soul, it is far greater than anything physical attraction can bring and it's pure.
The third level of a relationship is the spiritual level. This level is the deepest and most intimate level of a relationship. As a Christian, my spirit is connected with God and that's how I have daily communion with Him. God wants a man and a woman who enter into a romantic relationship to be connected spiritually, as well. I think one of the biggest ways people can be connected spiritually is by reading the Bible together and praying which each other. That brings a connection that can't be broken because it's founded on God and His Word. Romantic relationships that have reached the spiritual level will last because God is the foundation and the Rock on which it stands.
I mentioned in my last post that I would share a little bit about how God led me to start a relationship with my boyfriend. I'm going to share some of my story just to talk about how faithful God is.
I had never dated any guy before Matthew because I really believed that God would bring the right man to me. I didn't want to waste my time or waste a guy's time if we weren't right for each other. More than anything, I wanted to please God in my relationship and I felt He wanted me to wait. The summer before my freshman year of college I had started to like a guy and really get interested in dating him. When I started school at ORU, however, I found out the truth about him and some stuff he had been hiding from me and I was really hurt because I felt I couldn't trust him anymore. It was really hard for me to let go of that relationship especially because I had invested a lot of time into it only to find out it wasn't the right thing to be pursuing. I realized overtime that God didn't want me to be with a man who wasn't serious about Him. He wanted me to be with a man who would pursue a relationship with God because then he would know how to pursue me.
I started to move away from worrying about my love life and just focus on God. I didn't want to continue looking. I decided to rest in God. It was a great learning period in my life. I became so much closer to Him in that season and I gained so much clarity about my future. I realized, more than ever, that God is all I need. I knew God was going to do some amazing things in my life even though I didn't know exactly what they would be.
During my Christmas break, I hung out with Matthew for the first time. We had been talking for awhile, but I never really thought anything of it. I knew his family pretty well since our parents had known each other for years and they had been going to our church for a long time. Matthew and I started talking more during that time and I really started to enjoy our conversations. I remember thinking that he was really interesting and that he was really different from any other guy I had talked to before. When I went back to school, we started to skype a few times each week and that's when the soul level of our relationship really grew. We would talk about so many different things and he quickly became my best friend. One of the biggest things I noticed about him was that he had a desire to know God more. He would always ask me about books to read in the Bible and tell me about what he heard at church. We eventually started to have feelings for each and he asked me to go out with him on our first date when I got home for spring break.
I wasn't always so sure about our relationship because I had a lot of fear that I would get hurt again. Fear is not of God and so I knew that that wasn't the right reason to make a decision. After a lot of prayer (probably a few months haha) and talking with Matthew, we decided that God was truly bringing us together into a romantic relationship and Matthew asked me to be his girlfriend. I am always so happy I never let fear stop me from something God wanted for me. The Lord has truly blessed me with an amazing boyfriend and I know that He is the one who will keep us together. I love him so much <3 We have been together for a little over a year, and I am always seeing the awesome things God does through our relationship. God is so good and He knew exactly what I wanted in a man.
I hope you all have a blessed weekend and that you enjoyed this series of posts! Thanks for reading!
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